Long time no talk my good friends. I have been so busy working to Inspire Greatness that I have not been blogging. I wanted to take the time to drop you a line about our upcoming lunch and learn with Paycor. Paycor is a company that specializes in payroll and human resource services. They offer payroll services for Bank of Texas along with many other organizations, businesses, and fortune 100 companies. I met them while I was on assignment with Collin College in Fort Worth, Texas several months ago. We decided to host a lunch and learn to teach our Clients about the services they offer along with introducing our Business Alliance Group. The Business Alliance Group is an opportunity for business owners, non-profit organizations, and potential entrepreneurs to meet vendors, bankers, and network to increase business knowledge. The lunch and learn serves two purposes; one to educate, two to connect. I am so excited to have the opportunity to do so.
They will learn: New Programs Available in Payroll & HR Processing, Best Practices for W2 Wage Earners & 1099 Vendors, Small Business Loans Available for Start-Ups, Rules & Regulations Regarding Employees, Business Alliance Group Introduction. Attendees will be asked to bring a toy valued at $10 to be donated to Dominique Cares 501(c)3 Non-Profit Organization assisting special needs children by creating awareness and resources to empower success.
So today my two friends that teach spin were both teaching today at different gyms. Well one was teaching a kickboxing class, and the other was teaching a spin/ weight lifting class. I wanted to go to both so I did. I went to the kickboxing class first, then left went home took a shower and went to church. When we got to the church they were not having service, so we drove around for a while. We looked at some beautiful homes in Celina, and I stopped by the shvaed ice snow cone stand in Prosper for my kiddos then we to the other gym. I worked so hard today. I didn’t think I was going to make it, I wanted to quit so many times, and them skinny females kept trying to make me feel bad doing all kind of tricks and stuff, but I kept going anyway. I have learned people always try to show you up because the mere fact that you are doing good is a testament that they are doing bad, and who wants a constant reminder of their own personal failures? I mean if you vomited would you want someone carrying it around for everybody to see? Well, then you stop showing up your friends and they will stop hating on you!
I personally could care less! I will continue to push and encourage myself no matter what. I’m not skinny yet, but if I keep doing what I am doing I know I will be and when I am I will make sure I welcome and encourage not try to show up and show out in from of them.
Then to top it all off my triplets’ birthday get together was today, and wouldn’t you know it we stayed at Main Event for 5 hours! Bowling, laser tag, pool, gravity walking, and games for five long hours. I am so tired I can hardly type this blog, but I tell you what I was surely dedicated today without fail!
I Ispire to INSPIRE
Update: I wrote this blog 3 1/2 years ago when I weighed in at 185, halfway through my journey. I’m happy to say I did finish and I am skinny now yet my mentality has not changed. I still am encouraging every chance I get!!! This blog inspired me so I shared it again to inspire you too!!!
Infidelity (also referred to as cheating, adultery, or having an affair) is a violation of a couple’s assumed or stated contract regarding emotional and/or sexual exclusivity. (definition source: dictionary.com)
This is a definite deal breaker in most relationships even marriages. Most people forget about for better or for worse when you mention this dirty little word infidelity. Yes this can be a source of issues, but not the obvious issue. The underlying issue with infidelity is not the effect, but rather the cause. There are many reasons people choose to be unfaithful rather than leaving or simply using their words. Let’s explore some reasoning.
Reason One: Most individuals are selfish. For some, it is easier to go back to an ex rather than simply becoming vulnerable with a new person. This is not the same for all, but most. Most people are selfish in matters of the heart only considering their own feelings, desires, and passions. These are the people some say, “mess it up for the good ones.” Some people have a difficult time committing to one person often finding themselves in the middle of conflict, causing broken relationships, and severed hearts. If you find yourself in a relationship with a person like this, be ready for the long haul. If you are this person, how much longer are you going to place your feelings over the ones around you that love you?
Reason Two: The 80/20 Rule. There is a rule that most relationship experts state most couples are 80% satisfied in their relationships. This means there is a 20% deficient. Most couples can live without the 20%, but for those who cannot, they usually go looking to make up the difference. This is not a good thing only a quick fix that causing more problems than repairs to a relationship. The sad part is when the person who leaves to venture out for the 20% usually forfeits the 80% they left behind when the other finds out. This is the reality of infidelity.
Reason Three: The wounded. This is the area in most relationships would be considered the most justified form of infidelity. The wounded are the ones everyone feels sorry for. This is the spouse or significant other who is abused in some way in the relationship. They typically are the 80% of the relationship, the givers, and the least likely to slip. This would be the wife who knows her husband is cheating, but never says a word because she loves him so much. This would be the boyfriend who works out of town and would never normally be unfaithful. The wounded usually experience infidelity because of retaliation or moments of despair.
None of these are good reasons, but the reality is they are all valid reasons to those using them. There is life after infidelity and forgiveness is the biggest key. Forgiving the person whether you choose to say or not vital. Don’t allow this person to hold you back from loving again. Move forward. Trust again. Love again.